Back in the day when the internet wasn’t around, the popular way to meet singles was to head out to a popular bar or night club. There were also matchmaking clubs and community services that were run by the more prominent ‘elder’ citizens (read – right out of the movie “Fiddler on the Roof”). Recent history would show us that it was the introduction of personal classifieds that really scaled up the reach, that people had available to actually advertise their presence.
None of these methods have died out, and most are in fact still very popular ways of meeting a ‘special someone’. However, the internet and instantaneous worldwide communications has put a massive tool at every individual’s fingertips – quite literally too, since all it takes is a few clicks of a mouse and a few words typed out.
With demand comes the supply, and with the spread of demand across the internet, the propagation of internet dating websites has been profuse. Finding the right site for you would require your doing a bit of research, registering for the free services at a number of websites and experimenting with them. Primarily, you need to ensure that the website services your area and returns a high number of responses that you’d be interested in.
Pay for and upgrade your membership to the premium service on the site/s that you prefer. This will open up a number of services that will broaden your horizon of search and provide you with extensive filtration tools to help you with your search.
Your profile is what defines you on the dating website. Ensure that you’ve created your profile in a manner that would be attractive to the opposite gender. Use your picture as a focal point of attraction. It’s just as important to be attractive online as it is to be in the physical world. Just don’t put up anything that is unrealistic (or seems so).
When running searches, start with a very limited focus that has the maximum number of criteria associated with the kind of person you’re looking for. You’re most likely to find just the right kind of person through this method. However, remove the least important criteria every time you revise your search to broaden your result base.
There’s no person that’s over your league. If you like a person’s profile, go ahead and introduce yourself through the communication tools provided on the person’s profile page. Don’t be shy or hesitant in doing so. If you don’t receive a response, don’t let this bruise you; carry on with your search.
Give the initial communication some time to set into a patterned flow. Even quick-dry concrete takes ‘some’ time to harden. So, when you’ve established contact, don’t rush things. Ensure that you give out enough information about yourself without revealing any personal details that may hamper your personal security. Also ask questions that you would require answers to.
“Pictures tell a thousand words” or so the saying goes, so exchange as many pictures as you can. This will remove any points of doubt where physical appearance is concerned. Be immediately weary of people who ask for ‘graphic’ pictures that would be overly revealing, and never ask for these yourself.
When you finally decide to take the next step and communicate with the person over the telephone, do so over a number that is unlisted, or a separate mobile number that you may ditch is necessary. It’s important you do not give your residence number as many areas have coded number series that define locations.
Meeting the person of your choice would be important at some point. Ensure that you’ve not given out any personal information that would help trace you till this point. Take time to reconnoiter a suitable location where you could meet someone with a fair degree of privacy, but with enough people flowing through at any given point to provide you with a sense of security.
Finally, at any point during your focused online search for a partner, do not divulge any financial details of your own, provide information that would enable someone to trace your financial details or give cash to the person directly (this does not mean you can’t split a bill).