Why do most men fail when it comes to online dating? Or feel that the service has failed them? It’s not their fault. They just don’t understand online dating. When you understand how it all works, you’ll be 95% ahead of most men.
Online dating is the perfect solution for individuals and couples looking to develop a friendship or relationship of one kind. It’s become even more popular with new sites establishing themselves all the time.
Becoming a member of an online dating service gives you more options but you can also enjoy the free services first to see if it’s a site that you’d like to join.
The more dating sites you sign up for, the better chance you have of meeting the woman of your dreams. Studies have shown that when you sign up at multiple sites, the success rate increases by 210%.
One of the biggest mistakes that many people make is to jump into online dating with no idea on what to write in the profile or preference section and end up feeling frustrated when they don’t find that ideal person. Out of desperation, they end up accepting anything that the site offers. Don’t make that same mistake. Ask yourself what it is that you want and write it down.
You’ll need to set up a Screen Name and Password. A screen name can be anything that represents you as long as you don’t use your real name. Make sure that you set up a separate email account for your online dating sites.
Once you log it’s time to set up a Profile.
Knowing how to properly set up your profile can make the difference of being successful in meeting the right kind of women. For instance, if you’re an 18-year-old man, chances are you aren’t looking for women 55 years old, so set your preferences age appropriately. If you have any particular interests or hobbies such as sports, computers, photography, include this on your profile. It will make it easier for those that share your interests to find you.
As amazing as it may be, many people on online dating sites fail to complete their profile. They may put in a photo and location and that’s it. If by chance, someone shows an interest, they’re not going to learn very much about you and will continue searching other profiles.
A great picture of yourself may draw in many interested parties, but they may not be the type you want. You want to put information that makes you unique and stand out in the crowd without being dishonest.
Most people may say that looks don’t matter, in all honesty they still want to see what you look like so always post a photo along with your profile and make sure that it’s pretty current. If you post a photo taken ten years ago and when you were a few pounds lighter that’s not being honest. Post a current, attractive and appropriate picture. As the old saying goes: “a picture can be worth 1000 words”.
Finally, check your spelling and grammar. Misspelled words or improper use of the English language can easily discourage someone from taking an interest in you. You don’t want to give the opinion that you are uneducated.
Keep your profile updated. The more you log in to the site, the more you’ll show you’re active, resulting in staying on top and getting more views.After you’ve completed your profile, don’t forget about it. Come back from time to time to check on it so it stays current and others can see you’re active.
For the first week or so, many people sit around waiting for interested people to contact them. When that doesn’t happen, they move on to other things. Besides lessening your chances of meeting someone, your profile is pushed to the bottom of the pile because of inactivity.
Keep in mind that gone are the days where only men are allowed to take the initiative. If a woman sees someone interesting, you can be sure that she’ll make a first move.
Once you’ve determined that you’ve met someone you really like, you’re probably going to want to meet him or her in person. This is usually the next step. Hopefully by this time, you’ve known the individual for a while and are confident they’re trustworthy and whom they say they are.
Always make sure your first meeting takes place in public, preferably during daylight hours. After you’ve known each other longer, you can make other arrangements, but always be safe first.
Copyright 2012 Max Curtis