The laws of attraction that are a common part of the lives of dating singles have a surprising similarity to the laws that help define success. Imagine the single dating scene, even if it’s the distant past for you. What sorts of things did you find attractive in a person? Was it just physical features? Most certainly, it was not. You might find physical beauty appealing but there is usually more involved when it comes to true attraction.
Have you ever known a woman who seemed to have a penchant for dating losers? Have you ever known a man who similarly dated women that walked all over him? We’ve probably all known someone who seemed to find themselves in relationships like these. Were all of those people that they dated model-caliber attractive? Most certainly not, so what was the source of attraction?
More likely than not, it was a combination of things. First, someone who has a penchant for bad relationships is usually lacking in self-esteem and feel that who they date is the ‘best they could do’ at the time. However unhealthy this is, it does explain what happens. Whether you’re a man or a woman, if this has happened to you or if it is a common challenge that you face, just know that you could do so much better!
It’s not just self-esteem issues that create continual bad relationships. There is also a certain attractive quality that keeps leading a person to the ‘wrong person’. This quality is confidence and confidence can be far more intoxicating than physical beauty. Confidence, as evidenced by any bad relationship that it creates, is not a creator of happiness but it definitely creates attraction!
Understanding how confidence can attract other people can work for you in both the world of dating (if it applies to you) and in the world of success. A confident person in a singles bar is bound to attract people who might want to date him/her. A similarly confident person in a business environment might also attract positive things. Examples would include raises, promotions, venture capital, and even clients or customers. What I encourage you to do is to evaluate both your personal and your professional life.
Are you personally confident but lacking in professional confidence? Why not take what works for you in your personal life and apply it to your pursuit of success? The reverse may also be true. Do you feel like you are successful but have a lacking personal life? Confidence is universally attractive!
It is well worth your while to develop confidence in all areas of your life to reach a level of fulfillment that is as well rounded as it is significant. It starts with feeling as if you are on the right track and believing in yourself. Once this is achieved, confidence is just the expression of how you feel inside! You can do this and the results will follow!